It's the Sky the Limit (III)

From time to time,  I ask about the meaning of life and why I am always so unlucky compared with others. But I could not find the answer. This is how the book says:

Life and its meaning 

• Your emotional stability, your feelings of worthiness and happiness, along with your sense of contentment are definitely linked to your having a feeling of value, meaning and purpose in your own life.
• The feelings that you get from being kind to another person, from making a difference in the world, from improving the quality of all life – these are most often the sources of a sense of purpose.
• You are not going to be beaten down by anything external to yourself. You are going to take responsibility for changing your life if it is unsatisfactory, and that you are going to do it regardless of the risks involved.
• The attitude of fearing your own success is one of the biggest obstacles to having a sense of life mission and purpose.
• If you are only making a living at what you do, going in to work because it is a job, it won’t take very long before you’ll feel empty inside and lack purpose in your life.
• What you need to do in order to feel secure is to rely on yourself and to elicit meaning from a variety of activities. It is futile to attempt to gain all of your sense of meaning from any one single person or activity.
• You can have a healthy dose of some predictability and stability with a built-in capacity for newness and change. Giving yourself the permission to try out new experiences, to take risks and, most importantly, to do the things which you feel are significant, regardless of how others view them, will give you more and more meaning in your everyday life.
• ‘Real life’ – the ability to grow through constantly combining growth with play as much as possible.
• Limitless possibilities of life.
• Adopt a more enjoyable approach toward your purpose in being here.
• Love yourself and all other people as much as you can unconditionally by refusing to be upset or immobilized by hatred of them or their actions.
• Challenges are the stuff of life.
• The real purpose of being here is to journey through life with a maximum of enjoyment, victimizing no one and undertaking tasks that will make this planet a better place to be on for everyone now living here and those who will live here.
• It starts with your taking joy in your own life.
• Living your life fully today. Giving up the past and the future in favor of the now, for as many of your life experiences as you personally can.
• The most important ingredient in the feeling of having personal meaning is the attitude that you bring to anything that you select to do.
• Life is just plain too short for me to be going through someone else’s motions. I am going to be the captain of my life, and if I make mistakes, or suffer hardships, I am willing to pay the price, but at least I will have a feeling of self-satisfaction, that I am making the choices about how my life is going to be run.
• When you stop the searching and the inclination to place with meaning for your life in people or events outside yourself, and instead allow you to have purpose in all of your activities.
• A sense of purpose and mission stems from the new and different and acceptance of change.
• The mission in life is achieved when I know that I have made a difference in the life of another human being.
• Those who are dedicated to making a difference, to making their own lives as well as those around them work at their highest levels, will be the doers with a sense of meaning in their lives.
• Sense of fulfillment in making this world a better place for at least one other if not large numbers of others as well.
• The solution to your own lack of purpose is to allow yourself to feel and think in terms of your own personal greatness.
• Any feelings of personal inadequacy which keep you immobilized are the ingredients which also keep you from feeling a sense of purpose in your own life. Think Big.
• Strong belief that people have dignity, are deserving of respect. Accordingly he expects others to treat him as dignified and important because that is how he views himself and achieves his own sense of purpose.
• When we help one another to become more independent and to stay more healthily alive, we are fulfilling one of the major purpose for our being here - our mission in life.
• Being able to get excited about what you are doing, to feel vitally involved in your purpose here and to feel within yourself that you are really making a difference.
• When you behave in a way that is going to help improve the quality of life for someone else, on any level, you will find your greatest source of fulfillment when you devote yourself to tasks, ideas and specific behavior that are of some service to others.
• Being able to just do what you do, and to do it well, without judging yourself, you function at your very highest level.
• The capacity for seeing your work or behavior as something that is outside yourself and that you are the instrument of delivering to the world, you will see your work as being inextricably tied up with higher and higher values.
• A kind of excitement in going after the truth inside you and sharing it with others.
• Devote your life to improving the lives of everyone and ending injustice.
• If you are spending your life struggling at something that has no meaning for you, you are opting for some personal dishonesty with yourself. You have made the money more important than your own sense of purpose. You can be fulfilled in your life, doing the things that bring you pleasure and a sense of purpose, and money will chase after you in amounts large enough to keep you responsible.
• You can be honest enough with yourself to take the risks to do the things that bring you a sense of purpose, rather than chase the money which will guarantee you a sense of external security.
• I choose to be genuinely enthusiastic about my life. And my time is the precious currency of my life.
• Be natural and trusting - forget about being a person who has to impress anyone else. The more you work at just being yourself, the more likely you'll feel purposeful and significant in your life.
• When you dislike yourself you never feel a sense of genuine purpose in your life.
• The more you operate from within, upon those values which transcend all others, the more meaningful your life.
• Decide for yourself what you really love in your life, then actively pursue that love.
• Become a doer in your life and stifle your inclination to be a critic of other doers.
• Give yourself permission to have some sacredness in your life. By holding people and certain things as precious, you inadvertently allow yourself to function at a higher level. The higher the level on which you act out your life, the more purposeful and important your life will be.
• Ask for the information you want to have about yourself. The more self-awareness you have, the more you will feel a sense of purpose about your life.
• You cannot have a sense of purpose and meaning in your life if you are merely going through the motions of your life rather than living as you would really like to.
• Be more growth-oriented in your life - Try to ignore the deficiencies in your life. You can accept yourself where you are, but work regularly at growing each and every day. The more growth choices you make, the more you'll feel a real sense of purpose.
• Come to grips with the real issues of life. See yourself as someone who can change the world, who is informed and who really counts, and you'll also develop a sense of inner purpose.
• Try to transcend the localism in your life.
• Feels every moment of life as one of free personal choice, rejects externals as limiting what he can become.
• Approaches everything in life from a creative point of view.
• Any time you feel that external rewards or signals are controlling you and slashing painfully with your internal signals. It is happening only because you have permitted it to happen. No one can make a fool of you without your consent. You should never be a responder to your environment when you can be a initiator. You don’t have to take what ‘life’ hands you if you are interested in something else.
• All of your life that matters is what is under your control. Works to eliminate the faults.
• A sense of humor is vital to all aspects of life.
• Nothing in life is ever all one thing or the other.
• Take responsibility for all that is happening to you, and to take control over your own life.
• Two key controls you must give up are postponing your gratification and the destructive influences of your formal education.
• When the child becomes an adult in age and finds he does not feel any more complete than he ever did, he looks further into his life, toward his thirties, as the time when he can finally enjoy life. When the thirties arrives, the age of completeness becomes the forties and so on.

The last point describes exactly my situation in the past. When I graduated and entered into business world, I thought that I should concentrate on working, climbing to the higher and higher position before I got married. When I was in thirties, this target had not been achieved and so I look further towards my forties. And now I am in fifties, but this target is still not yet achieved...