It's the Sky the Limit (V)

Life doesn't have to be a series of win-or-lose propositions. Everyone can win, all the time. All one has to do is to change one's motivation from the external world to the internal world. Traditional notions of winning and success specify that a person has to attain an external goal or defeat someone else in order to be a winner. Dr. Dyer says that winning should be an internal motivational process and that self-worth and accomplishment should be based on an internal scale. Individuals with such motivation are 'no-limit people'. Their success is not based on comparison with others' accomplishments.

Winner and Loser

• We don't need losers in order to have winners. Winning is an internal process. It is the ability to think of yourself as a winner (because you are operating on inner signals) in virtually all life situations. You do not have to beat someone else in order to be a winner. If you must defeat an opponent to become a winner, you are allowing that opponent to determine how you will view yourself as a human being.
• No one person is better than everyone else at anything for more than a few minutes in one single day.
• Your inner attitude is always a matter of your personal choice. The total winning attitude is one which allows you to think of yourself as a winner all the time while still giving yourself room to grow. You never have to engage in self-flagellation simply because you've encountered an opponent who is more skillful than you are on a given day. You do not have to find fault with yourself because you fail to achieve a goal.
• Everything you do in life affords you an opportunity to think of yourself as a winner. You can learn from every single experience. When you use your life experience to provide yourself with motivation for growth rather than as evidence of your deficiencies, you will be on the side of being a one-hundred-percent winner.
• Winning is really an attitude. Learning how to have a winning attitude about everything you undertake in life, rather than an evaluating yourself in any external performance manner.
• You learn from everything you do in life. Sometimes others will evaluate you in critical ways, and sometimes you won't be at the top. But if you are satisfied that you received something valuable from the experience, you are a winner.
• Never thinking of yourself as a loser. If we use any single standard of comparison on performance, then every person on this planet is a loser almost all the time. You are unique in all the world.
• When you go after a goal that you set for yourself and fail to achieve, you are not a failure as a person simply because you failed to achieve a goal. You just have to learn from the experience and move on to other goals for yourself. You cannot learn without some failure.
• Learning how to think differently, to think in winning ways and to work at eradicating any loser images you may be carrying over from an earlier period of your life.
• The entire process of labeling yourself as a loser keeps you from growing.
• Operating from a position of being able to grow is what life is all about.
• Everything you elect to do can be approached from a position of having a winning attitude. Being internal and consulting yourself from a position of self-esteem is what really distinguishes winners from those who think of themselves as losers.
• The 100% winner is so excited about doing, and being able to enjoy a present moment, that he just doesn't have the leftover time for the loser mentality.
• You can in fact change your thinking to that of a total winning philosophy by being the sole determiner of what you elect to think. You can be the manager of your own feelings.
• Inner pride rather than self-flagellation is the key to inner success as well as outer success.
• Has no 'performance anxiety' whatever, realizes that as much is learned from 'failure' as from 'success', does not care how others or external standards rate his performance, knows that worrying only inhibits 'performance'
• Welcome failure as part of learning process, willing to try almost anything that interests him, no compulsion to 'succeed' in everything he tries. 'Success' comes naturally in fulfillment of life projects and practice at things he deeply cares about.
• We fear failure by comparison with those whom external others.
• Go after whatever you want with a total anticipation of meeting some failure head on. Learn to accept some failure and to quit evaluating yourself as a failure simply because you didn't succeed at some activity.
• You can fail at anything in life without being a failure as a person. Your worth as a person comes from within.
• Experiencing failure does not make a person a failure. By the same token, losing at something does not make someone a loser. Internal motivational goals such as hope, pride, contentment and confidence are what will allow a person to make growth choices.
• Fear of failure becomes fear of success for those who never try anything new.
• How you think, what you do with the loss and how you decide to place it in a sensible context in your life are all choices for you to make. You grow just as much from defeats as from victories and that nothing in life is worth making yourself miserable over.
• The more unnatural you are - the more you start thinking of yourself in self-forfeiting ways and the more you are inclined to evaluate yourself at the time of the activity - the more likely you'll be to choose negative emotions that will get in your way and keep you from being effective. Moreover, if you then grade yourself on how well you did, rather than focusing on how well you've done and what you can learn from it, you will get right back into thinking of yourself as a loser and then feeling like a loser as well.
• When you start becoming an appreciator of life, you become someone who understands that you can grow from adversity. Your ability to appreciate each moment and to live it fully allows you to transcend the losing attitude which previously caused you to become immobilized and upset for long periods. You begin to look for something beneficial in tight situations rather than let the circumstances defeat you.
• What you choose to label yourself is entirely up to you. Learning to ignore the opinions and criticisms of others, and to consult one's inner signals, is at the core of being a 100% winner.
• Every mistake he makes is simply another tool to help him carve out an even more effective life for himself. With this kind of attitude he can never be a loser to himself.
• If you go into the encounter with a kind of self-knowledge and inner confidence, you can't emerge as a loser.

No-limit person

• No-limit people are those who understand that there are always going to be people who are better than they are at something and who know that if they use the external idea of winning (defeating someone else), they will always be losers. No-limit people merely acknowledge that they will encounter people who are better at particular things than they are, on particular days. Externally, the 'loser' still has the same needs, drives and goals and has not really lost anything at all. When people do not reach a goal they have set for themselves, they just need to learn from this and move on to other goals.
• They don't judge people by surface qualities. They express their opinions on any subject according to what they feel, not what they are expected to feel.
• The childlike quality of being open to different viewpoints, being tolerant of differences of others, refusing to lump people into categories.
• No-limit person see everything in the world as an opportunity rather than as something to be feared or avoided. They look at any experience as a potential for excitement and growth. They find it easy to accept others as being different. They have learned to accept themselves as whole and complete. He has chosen to think in self-respecting ways, and no one else can ever convince him that he is less than worthy.
• The sense of self-confidence permits them to operate quite independently of the opinions of other people. They feel they are determiners of their own fate.
• The past is over and that the future is promised to no one, so they work at living in the present and being grateful for what they have. They are vitally involved in projects.
• Totally involved in the present moments.
• Take things as they come and deal with them according to what seems to make the most sense at the time.
• The only solution is to admit that we are always complete, always to think of ourselves as having arrived, and of our present moments as time to be lived and enjoyed to the fullest.
• The ability to trust yourself and to trust others.
• The No-limit person does not blame the world for having injustice in it and will not accept that the world ‘naturally’ has injustice.
• It is the principle, not the money that they live by.
• Involved heavily in tasks that serve to make the world a better, more beautiful place for others to be.
• The search for truth, justice for everyone. Beauty, perfection and goodness is suppermost in their lives.
• Constantly seeking new challenges. They are willing to change jobs without being internally afraid that things just won't work out. The No-limit person somehow seems to have an attitude of internal confidence that he can handle anything that comes along, and that there is no special virtue in keeping things as they are. Not only in welcoming new and different environments but in allowing himself to adapt to them as well. Does not hang on to old beliefs when they are no longer applicable or useful. Take the risks that go with change.
• Receive the inner feelings of satisfaction from doing something for others.
• It is all right sometimes not to have any goals at all, that sometimes just doing something for the real enjoyment of it is healthier than planning.
• Accept whatever cannot be changed.
• Developing a sense of meaning and purpose results from a general attitude that is itself the resultenthusiastic about your work and behaving in the No-limit ways.

Be a no limit winner and prove that the sky's the limit'.