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Life Strategies (IV)

McGraw describes the ten "Life Laws" - the rules by which the world plays, such as "You Either Get It, or You Don't", "Life Is Managed; It Is Not Cured", "You Can't Change What You Don't Acknowledge" and "You Have to Name It to Claim It". If you learn and abide by the Life Laws and go on to create a Life Strategy, McGraw claims that you will not only know yourself better and eliminate negative behaviors, you will also know how to reach any goal you set for yourself.

Some people spend their lives reacting to what life hands them. By accepting that you are personally accountable for every element of your life, McGraw says, you can erase the negative "epidemic behaviors" in your life and reach your goals. 

•  Are you frustrated that you are not making more money in your job? And you are capable of more than you are accomplishing but now you are living a lonely existence with little hope for change.
• Did I fail to be clear about what I wanted?
• Did I fail to stand up for myself and claim my rights?

     If so, you need to

• Design in life strategy that requires you to persuade someone to see things your way in order for you to succeed.
• Acknowledge and label whatever personal characteristics are keeping you from success.
• Seize opportunities when they present themselves and create them when they do not. 

If you don’t step up and fight for you, no one else will.  If events in your life begin to flow differently, it will be because you have changed what you think, feel and do. We teach people how to treat us.  Fear can imprison us and ruin our life.

You have to name with great precision what you want and to claim it once you have created it. You have to overcome timidity, guilt, feeling of inadequacy and have the willingness and courage to claim what you want.

Life Strategies (III)

In the book, it was mentioned that suppose we hire a life manager to monitor our life, at the end of our days, we have to appraise the performance of our life manager. We have to ask  

·  Is my life manager putting me in situations where I can utilize all of my skills and abilities?

·  Is my life manager create opportunities for me to get what I really want in the life?

·  Is my life manager selecting and possessing relationships in which I can be healthy and flourish?

And so we have to do something for our life before it is too late.

What is it I truly want in the life?

In addition,

·  You should have a sense of being focused on what you must urgently want in your life.

·  Managing your life with design and commitment.

·  To change your life, you must be different.

·  If the people treat you in an undesirable way, you’re going to figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment.

·  You teach people by passively allow them to persist in that behavior.

·  Acknowledge any problem behavior, figure out why problem behavior happens, make a plan for change. You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge

·  For every thought and every feeling, there is a physiological reaction.

·  You choose how you feel.

·  Do I go into intentions expecting negative outcome?

·  You can’t give away what you do not have.

·  Trust yourself and others with dignity and respect.

·  If you continue to do what you’ve already done, you will continue to have what you’ve always had. If you do it different, you will have different result.

·  You do have to make you the most important person in your life.

·  You shape the behavior of those with whom you interact.

·  How you interpret and react to their behavior determines whether they are likely to repeat it.

·  You create your own experience. You must have the resolve to create what you want and get rid of what you don’t want.

·  Have the willingness and courage to claim what you want.

·  You cannot continue to live with those types of behavior, particularly the rigidity.

·  That’s only a disaster if you don’t work to improve.

·  You have the right to be who you are and how you are, so long as it is not at the expense of other people’s dignity and respect.

·  You cannot let people intimidate you.  You deserve more, you can have more.

·  Anyone can be a star, a champion in their life.

Life Strategies (II)

The book was written by Phillip C. Mcgraw. More insights from this book:

·  How you present and define yourself to other people, your attitude of approach dictates what you get back.

·  You create the reactions get from the world.  You create your own experience by what you choose and do.

·  Consciously, purposefully did activity create experiences you do want instead of suffering through experiences that don’t want?

·  Conscious awareness of the influence that your thoughts and behavior have on your experience, both internally and externally. You are accountable for the life you have, and how you feel and react to it.

·  Break out of your habitual doldrums.

·  Reclaim the right to live with dignity and respect.

·  The behavior you choose creates the results you get.

·  You give in to the demand of others.

·  Insecure person measures self-worth as a function of the approval of others.

·  Fear of rejection can be so powerful that payoff of escaping anxiety may override your desire to reach out.

·  The payoff was safety and escape from hurt, fear and anxiety.

·  You are shaping your own behavior by the payoffs you are getting. Find and control the payoffs and control the behavior.

·  Only if you acknowledge the presence of a condition can you make a conscious effort to offset or control that condition.

·  Acknowledge whatever is not working in your life. If it is not working, then change it.

·  Is my life a dead-end journey, heading nowhere? Am I scared?

Life Strategies (I)

After working for so many years, I am still pondering around and have not made any achievement. This book provides me with many insights of what I should do in order to gain progress. I should have my “life manager” as said by the book to monitor my life so that I will not feel regret at the moment I die.

Accompanied with this book is a workbook that allows us to think more deeply about what we did and thought in the past. Actually, I read the workbook first and found the exercises very useful before I looked for the book to read.

Here are some points which are very useful for me:

• Focus on what must do in order to win.
• If what you’re doing is not working, change it.
• You must overcome people’s resistance and excuses and get them to accept your view. You must understand what makes them tick before you can connect with them.
• What do they value most in their lives?
• What are their expectancies and beliefs?
• What resistance or predispositions do they have?
• Fear among all people is rejection. They need acceptance.
• To manage people effectively, you must do it in a way that protects or enhances their self-esteem.
• It takes knowledge about how you developed that negative characteristics.
• Why you persist with it and how to replace it with more positive, constructive characteristics.
• If in any part of your life, you are hurt or upset, you own those feelings and are accountable for their presence in your life.
• You are creating the situations you are in. The solutions lie within you.
• You never fix your problems blaming someone else.
• You made the choice.
• You and only you can choose your reaction to the events of your earlier life.
• You create your own experience by and through the choices you make everyday. The choice making creates your own experience, because with choice you make comes a certain consequence.
• When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences.
• When you choose the thoughts, you choose the consequences.
• When you choose the thoughts, you choose the physiology.
• If you choose thoughts that demean and depreciate you, you choose the consequence of low self-esteem and low self-confidence.

 

You can heal your life

Fom time to time, I heard there were cases that people suffered from cancer or other serious diseases could be recovered. For example, in her book, "You can heal your life", Louise Hay mentioned how she recovered from cancer by going back to nature and eating some natural foods.



In fact, cancer is due to the foods we eat which cause inflammation in our body and mucus is discharged and accumulates. This blocks cellular respiration and hence causing cellular weaknesses and cellular death and decay, opening the doorway to cancer.

It is a well known fact that diets high in animal protein are cancer causing. Animal protein is acidic and irritating and inflaming our body tissues. On the other hand, fruits are the highest electrically-alkaline foods and can clean and detox our body. In addition,  we can use herbs to rebuild tissues and promote tissue function. Thus by eating naturally, we can recover from disease.

Everyone is responsible for everything in our lives.

As mentioned by Louise, it is not what happens. It is how we react to it. We are each responsible for all our experiences.

 

The only thing we are ever dealing with is a thought and a thought can be changed. When we really love and accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, everything in life works.

 

Other points in the book I found useful include the following:

• We are only hurting ourselves by refusing to live in this moment to the fullest.
• I love and accept myself at every age. Each moment in life is perfect.
• No person, no place and no thing has any power over us, for 'we' are the only thinkers in our mind. We create our experiences, our reality and everyone in it.
• I now realize that I have created this condition and I am now willing to release the pattern in my consciousness that is responsible for this condition.
• Release the emotional attachment to the past.
• Foregiveness of ourselves and of others. See good things happening to the person and you.

Overweight and Health (III)

Cancer arises from one single cell. The transformation from a normal cell into a tumor cell is a multistage process, typically a progression from a pre-cancerous lesion to malignant tumors. These changes are the result of the interaction between a person's genetic factors and three categories of external agents, including physical carcinogens (such as ultraviolet and ionizing radiation), chemical carcinogens (such as asbestos, components of tobacco smoke, aflatoxin (a food contaminant) and arsenic (a drinking water contaminant)), biological carcinogens (such as infections from certain viruses, bacteria or parasites).

Many cancers can be prevented by avoiding exposure to common risk factors, such as tobacco smoke. Tobacco use is the single most important risk factor for cancer. Some research indicates that certain lifestyle habits can prevent cancer attack . In addition, a significant proportion of cancers can be cured by surgery, radiotherapy or chemotherapy, especially if they are detected early.

Cancer is a leading cause of death worldwide: it accounted for 7.9 million deaths (around 13% of all deaths) in 2007. Lung, stomach, liver, colon and breast cancer cause the most cancer deaths each year:

Lung (1.4 million deaths/year)

Stomach (866,000 deaths)

Liver (653,000 deaths)

Colon (677,000 deaths)

Breast (548,000 deaths).

The most frequent types of cancer differ between men and women:

Men - lung, stomach, liver, colorectal, oesophagus and prostate.
Women - breast, lung, stomach, colorectal and cervical.

About 30 per cent of cancer deaths can be prevented. Deaths from cancer worldwide are projected to continue rising, with an estimated 12 million deaths in 2030.

In addition, overweight people also have a high risk in suffering diseases in the areas of lungs, stomach, gall bladder and musculoskeletal disorders (especially osteoarthritis). Moreover, overweight makes surgery and pregnancy more dangerous: some abdominal operations may be impossible in badly overweight people.

Obese and overweight people are more accident prone mainly because excess weight limits their mobility so that they cannot easily get out of the way of danger.

Overweight may disguise symptoms of serious diseases and make it difficult for a doctor to make a diagnosis.